Todays self-care task involves space clearing and decluttering. Decluttering may not immediately strike you as self-care, but it is. It can be particularly difficult but we benefit from it in an emotional way that puts it firmly under the self-care umbrella. I think we all feel the benefits and notice how our mood can be different if we have a clearer space to manoeuvre in. Cont…
In my Leonie Dawson workbook that I filled out at the beginning of this year there was a page called
12 Zen Habits (From Leo Babuta at Zen habits.net)
They are all pretty useful and zen and go as follows
- Set your 3 MIT’s (most important tasks) each morning
- Single task (focus your attention)
- Zero inbox
- Process emails once a day
- Exercise 5-10 mins a day
- Work while disconnected
- Keep your desk decluttered
- Clear & declutter home for 15 mins a day
- Stick to a 5 sentence limit on emails (make your words powerful)
- Say no to commitments & requests not on your important short list
- Eat fresh fruit & veg everyday
- Follow a morning routine
I think we can all pretty much agree that these ‘Zen Habits’ are worth thinking about as we go through our days. In fact I have them stuck on the wall in front of me right this very second look
My favourite one is number 1. I actually do use this one every day now. Having 3 MIT’s is great because it isn’t overwhelming. It its an endless to do list. It is just what actually matters to you the most on that day. Sometimes there is time for more. Some days I have achieved my MIT’s by 11am and I have the rest of the day to frolic..or whatever. I take 5 minutes every morning to figure out what the 3 tasks are for that day that i definitely need to do. If i think of 4 i have to choose which ones are the most necessary to my day.
Todays MIT’s for example are
- Write blog post
- Go to appointment
- Start assignment
Today is pretty standard actually. Often my 3 MIT’s have something to do with self-care (appointment-actually for hypnotherapy) something for my business (today-write blog post) and often something to do with studying because there is basically always something I really need to do for that.
Other days, I know immediately that My number 1 priority is self care. Sometimes my MIT is actually to find time for a quick nap, or a bath, or just to read alone for a while. On days when I’m not feeling that great I know that that needs to be taken care of first.
Some days it is to do something fun with my family, to visit my grandma, to clean something, to business plan, to organise something for charity, to find time for yoga or a walk or to write in my journal if I haven’t done that for a while, to create something if i haven’t done that for a while.
You get the picture. I need to sit down each morning and actually give myself a few minutes to think about what the day holds in store for me and how I can work out when to do my MIT’s.
Why don’t you try it? Could you list 3 MIT’s today?
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Well weirdly enough today has actually been, well, nice! First day since Friday with no sickness so that’s obviously a bonus. I have been pottering around with the kids again playing, making, giggling and it’s been lovely. I asked my lovely sister to take baby out to the park in the afternoon because she was ill first so recovered first and has been fine for a few days. It’s so important to have a support system that is there for you and you can ask for help. I know it’s awkward to ask and you feel like you’re putting people out by asking but you’re not. You’re looking after the best interests of your family and they can only say no. If you’re not lucky enough to live near your family, build a network of mummy friends and ask one of them, ask a neighbour you trust or find the money to pay someone. If only once a week you need that time especially if you are a single mum or like me spend time alone while daddy is away.
So while baby was out the boy watched the Lego Movie and I actually got to write for an hour. I am trying to write a novel. It’s experimental but I’m enjoying it! When I sat down I just had one of those kinds of sessions where it just seemed to flow and I got a chapter and a half written before bubs got home.
Then we did this
And played Lego and snuggled and laughed and played games and it was special. I wasn’t rushing trying to do other things and got some sneaky unexpected quality time with the kids.
A stolen day of quality family time.